the art of letting go

xx Deborah Chloé

Why is it that we tend to cling to the past? You know what came to my mind? We cling to the past but it's not (only) about the men we seem to cling on. No, it's all about us. We can't let go of our past because we feel attracted to those who reflect it.
So it's more about clinging to our fears and so called "weaknesses" than about the men, isn't it? 

We want a relationship to work and we want them to think of us, to text/call us and to give us the feeling that we have a special place in their life. But why? So that we can relive experiences we made already again and again just for this one little glimpse of hope to that everything will get better? For a short moment of recognition and the feeling of being worth thinking of us, although we know that it's only a short moment before we're sitting next to our phones, getting nuts again. There is nothing worse than the feeling of not being wanted / "needed" or of being replaced like a toy or something. But keep in mind that every person who crosses your path leaves their foot print on your soul and so do you! You won't be forgotten just because he/she doesn't text you on a regular base. Even if you won't hear from them anymore, it's hard to forget about a person if you once shared an intense time together!
But what is it on which we cling on? I can say that (for me) it wasn't only about the men.
Life is so colourful and amazing and we drown it in a kind of grey in grey of lack of respect for ourselves, too much pain from our past and way not enough self-love! So those people of our past are nothing else than a reflection of who we THINK we are or what we deserve, aren't they?

Yes, that's the way he/she is but you're so much more than that. You're more than a temporary match which one can enjoy whenever they feel like whether it's temporal or emotionally. You're so much more than that and you deserve so much more than that. I don't like the word "deserve" when it comes to relationships or love but it's hard to replace. The phrase "worth so much more" isn't any better because who says how much you're worth of? Come on... You simply are more than that! You're a wonderful and strong person and one should be happy to be able to spend time with you. One should have the intention to give you as much as you're able to give them. One should be looking forward of sharing all these beautiful feelings and moments with you and shouldn't feel like they need to. No one should need you. One should want to spend time with you and to put that smile on your lips whenever you see each other..